Friday, August 04, 2006

August 4, 2006 ... Duck Pond Wine

Duck Pond Wine...

Today there were some beakthroughs in our relationship. I'll start from the top.

Good morning, we split up and did our own things in the morning and met together in the afternoon. Afternoon went well without a hitch. It was when we got home that things went up and down. I went to pick up dinner from a sandwich shop and stopped by the store because they had a special on Gatorade. I didn't call to tell her though because it was a quick stop. When I got home she went off on me saying I don't think about anyone but myself and I should have called.

Here's the thing though...10 minutes later, she appologized for her actions...something that never really happens. I thought to myself 'this is working after all.' We continued on with our evening and after a while she was upset again, this time because I should have changed the sheets. After she said some choice words we left each other in different parts of the house. I began to question if this really was working. I started to think it was happening like this because I spread out the nice things over 24 hours ...I should have done it earlier. I hadn't even done the task for today (share some wine) and I didn't know if I wanted to anymore.

I convinced myself, though, that whatever she said, I had to try to make it work and keep my mission of doing one small thing for love a day. So I went down stairs to round up the glasses and the wine I had bought earlier. When I got upstairs, she was waiting for me in some sexy outfit, hair and make-up done, jewlery, and some sexy shoes. She said she wanted to appologize again (twice in a night) for how she reacted. We sat down on the bed, I uncorked the wine (it was called Duck Pond Merlot) and poured. She said it was the best wine she had had recently (I thought it tasted like garbage... it was cheap ...remember it's the thought that counts) and we drank and talked for 5 - 10 minutes. Then guess what happened...more of what happened the night before. She's in bed now.

I don't want to ginkxs it but something different is happening between us. I still have a long way to go, but it looks like things are getting better...knock on wood for me.

I need your help. I need more small ideas I could do to show her my love. What do you do in your relationships? What do you do to show your special person you care? Or what would you like done to you? Help me out, I want this to continue to work. And I want you to try these things in your relationship to and let me know how it's going.

August 3, 2006...Bubble Bath

Bubble Bath...

Tough day today. My loved one was upset because she thought I didn't talk to her enough last night. She spent the morning answering me with one word answers. I came down with a migrane headache though which was probably for the best. She went out and did some shopping so I could sleep. This way she didn't have to be irritated with me and I could feel better.

We seemed to be at odds until about 8:30pm, when I started to run her some bath water. She was outside tending to some garden work so I went upstairs and turned the water on and added some oils and some honey bubble bath. We have this very big bath tub that allows you to get your whole body submerged so it was nice. I then lit about 10 candles, oil candles, and placed them around the bath tub. When everything was set, I turned on some smooth jazz and went down stairs to get her. I brought her up, walked her to the master bathroom and showed her the waiting water. She smiled and I helped her in. We talked for about 45 minutes about normal things then I washed her. Following the cleaning, she stood up and I dried her off.

I think she enjoyed herself because it led to something else a short while later (hopefully you know what I'm saying). Soon after she was asleep and satisfied.

Three days and it's going fair. My goal though is to make love between us more consistent. We still have a long way to go. Much more love will be spread...362 days more to be exact.

One a different note...

Thank you so much for the people who are commenting on this site. I enjoy all of your insights and ideas. If this project is a success, it will be because of you. Also if you are putting this site on your myspace or are telling people about it, much love to you. It's hard to spread the word when you start with one person, but it's happening. Thanks so much!

Thursday, August 03, 2006

August 2, 2006...Flowers


I've noticed already that just one day is not going to work. It will take time. She got upset at me today because she thought I miss placed some papers and the world would end. She called me early and left me a rude message and called me an Ass-hole, which was odd because she doesn't curse. I let it ride out though and after my class today, I went to the market, picked up some friut, some bones for the dog, some wine (for later on) and some flowers. I wasn't planning on paying a whole lot for them, but they cost $10 which I though was a little pricey. When I got home, she was by the door and I presented her with the flowers. She smiled and said, "Why'd you bring me these?" My reply was that I brought them just becasue I wanted to get her something nice. She then said, "Are you trying to do like you did when we first met?" I smiled and she gave me a peck. It was nice because her mother was there and it's always nice for other people to see you doing good things, that way if my loved one forgets and says..."you never do anything nice for me," other people have my back.

Things got sour later on in the night though. She said that she felt that I didn't talk to her enough and I didn't want to be close to her. I told her I felt she was wrong and in my head I thought, 'well why would I be doing this project?' but I didn't say that because I didn't want to spoil it. tonight will have to be something that opens up more communication about whatever.

Side note...

As this project continues, and I hopefully get more people looking at this blog, I would like to take more suggestions as to what to do on a specific day. For now though I will just pick from the small list that has benn generated. You gotta help me though, as I plan on 365 days...that's a year... and I only have under 20 days now.

Thanks again for supporting what I feel is a worth cause and drop a comment whenever you get on the blog.

Tuesday, August 01, 2006

August 1, 2006...I Just Called To Say I Love You

I Just Called To Say I Love You...

Yesterday was a rough day for me and my loved one. We went to look at cars and found ourselves almost buying one. When you buy a car, or almost do, you look at your finances, and in the end we were more frustrated with each other than anything else. It carried over to today and as I left this morning to go to a class, she just frowned.

At lunch time, when I got a break, I called to say hello and she answered, "yeah, what?" I decided then to employ one of the tactics on the list. I started singing, "I Just Called to Say I Love You" by Stevie Wonder. I sang the first line in the chorus and paused. She laughed and said, "I'm mad at you." I continued with the next line, "I just called to say how much I care." She again laughed and said, "I'm still mad." I sang the next line, "I just called to say I love you," and she said, "I should be upset." Finally I sang the last line in the chorus, "And I mean it from the bottom of my heart." Let's just say, by the end of the call she had a changed tone with me. I ended it with, "I love you," and she said, "I love you too."

Thanks Stevie

I Just Called To Say I Love You
( Stevie Wonder )

No New Year's day to celebrate
No chocolate covered candy hearts to give away
No first of spring
No song to sing
In fact here's just another ordinary day

No April rain
No flowers bloom
No wedding Saturday within the month of June
But what it is, is something true
Made up of these three words that I must say to you

I just called to say
I love youI just called to say how much I care
I just called to say I love you
And I mean it from the bottom of my heart

No summer's high
No warm July
No harvest moon to light one tender August night
No autumn breeze
No falling leaves
Not even time for birds to fly to southern skies

No Libra sun
No Halloween
No giving thanks to all the Christmas joy you bring
But what it is, though old so new
To fill your heart like no three words could ever do

I just called to say I love you
I just called to say how much I care
I just called to say I love youAnd I mean it from the bottom of my heart

I just called to say I love you
I just called to say how much I care, I do
I just called to say I love you
And I mean it from the bottom of my heart
Of my heart,...... of my heart

Monday, July 31, 2006

More Ideas

8. Just call to say I love you
9. E-mail just to let them know you miss then and thinking about them
10. After a long day at work sit her down and cater to her, pull her shoes off , a lil massage , kiss her, tell her how you thought about her all day an glad she's home.
11. Remembering her birthday or the first day you met or first date or the first kiss
12. In a restaurant, lean over the table or scoot over to kiss them and cuddle up
13. Roses on the bed
14. Candle light dinner
15. Glass of wine in front of a fireplace
16. Massages on her neck and her back with warm oils

These ideas are perfect. I'm going to start my quest tomorrow, August 1, 2006. Today I have to get a calandar and write down these first 16 things on it, one for each day. I'll keep you posted on how each thing turned out...what her reaction was when I did those things. Keep the ideas coming. Thanks and spread love.

Saturday, July 29, 2006

List of ideas for far

Here's what I got so far:

1. A card detailing 5 reasons why you fell in love with them (my idea)
2. Breakfast in bed (my idea also)
3. Draw them a picture that can express to them how much you really do care
4. Take her out to eat
5. Cook her dinner then after that watch a movie and cuddle
6. Run her a bath with caddles around it
7. A poem would be very romantic

All great ideas. Give me some more small things I can do to show my love. If the ideas have not already been used, and are worthy, I'll post them on the site. Thanks...

Friday, July 28, 2006

Great Ideas...More?

Those ideas are great. I especially like the idea about drawing a picture. That is going to be my first day. I also think the ideas about a day together and breakfast in bed are good too. I am looking for more "small" and "little" things I can do to show my love. Things that do not take a lot of planning and time, such as drawing a simple picture that says "I Love You" (thanks for the idea). My quest for 365 days of love will start very soon, but first I need more ideas, hopefully enough to get me through a whole week. Thanks for the ideas, they are great. But give me some more!

Sunday, July 23, 2006


Where do I begin? What can I do to show my loved one I care...or better yet, what do you do to show yours that you care?

Mission Objective

My mission is to find out some of the "little things" people do to show the person they are with that they love them. For example, you might write your loved one a card detailing 5 reasons why you fell in love with them, or you might treat your loved one to breakfast in bed (anything that shows you care...creative or not so creative). To test the quality of the idea, I will try them out on the person I am with and report back with her reaction. Is this a worthy mission? Is this research something of value?

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